When You Know You Need Truth BUT You Don’t Want to Hear It

I will never forget the countenance on her face as her 4 year old said, in a matter of fact kind of way… “ I don’t want to hear that, right now.”

Honor your father and your mother ; which is the first commandment with a promise; Ephesians 6:2.

Her mother was asking her to recite the above verse and she wasn’t interested in the least.  It was not the child’s behavior that saddened me, it was the countenance on the mother’s face.

Discouragement .


Have you ever felt any of these?

My heart broke simultaneously with hers. It was as though I’d caught a glimpse of myself during a time of trying to persuade my own children to do or not to do something without much avail. 

I think it is safe to say, that most of us have had similar experiences.  There were probably even times when we’d mumble under our breath, “Ooh…if only that were my child…” For a split second that was my thought… as my eyes were fixed on the child.

I was giving her the “mama” look, y’all know the one. 

Not to give the young child any further ammunition, I chose to make eye contact with the mother. She expressed she didn’t know what to do and was open for suggestions. 

Let the truth be told, I didn’t have a clue as to what to do.  

A spanking?


Neither seemed feasible, considering we were dining at the best chicken place on this side of heaven and it was rush hour.

The only advice I could muster up was “be encouraged.”  If you  have read any of my previous posts, Dear Teenager or A Trusted Parenting Manual, you know, the struggle is REAL.  

Parenting may be a cake walk to some but for me it’s an area where I’m constantly seeking the Lord’s guidance and the guidance of other trusted mothers.  

As we talked a little more, she expressed, she didn’t understand how her child could express an understanding of Jesus and a love for Jesus, yet reject truth.

Admittedly, I shared with her that though I love Jesus and have an understanding of Jesus, there are times when I too reject truth.  The difference between us and children, are we may cover up our rejection of truth or try to justify it, while children will plainly admit, “I don’t want to hear that right now.”

Have you ever rejected truth?

I recall my shoulders touching my ears while I sat in our marriage counselor’s office and she asked whether my respect for my husband was conditional.


As she read aloud Ephesians 5:33, with emphasis on “the wife must respect her husband,” my right eyebrow raised (my right, your left), suddenly all movement ceased like a deer confronted by headlights.  

Based on the words read, the respect mentioned here is clearly unconditional.

My philosophy had been trampled over. I felt like screaming, “I don’t want to hear that right now!”

Instead, in my most sophisticated voice, I asked, “Isn’t respect to be earned?”

I’d heard truth, yet I rejected it.

I thought I was off the hook. Surely, she couldn’t argue with that.

She didn’t, however I couldn’t get that verse out of my mind.  

It was not until I surrendered my philosophy in exchange for God’s truth that I experienced a freedom to unconditionally respect my husband.

Truth make us free, while lies hold us captive.  John 8:32 says, you will know the truth and the truth will make you free.   As we read a little further, we learn that who the Son sets free, is FREE INDEED (John 8:36).

What are some lies you have believed and need to exchange for God’s truth?  

List them out and search the Bible for truth.  On a sticky note or index card write these truths out and place them in a place you frequently visit (bathroom mirror, wall, armrest in your car, office desk, etc.). As you begin to walk in freedom, encourage the women around you to do the same.  

I’d love to here about your freedom journey, feel free to share in comments or send me an email.

In His perfect love, 




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